I received an email from Kay, who has been dating a great guy for 2 months. This mother has been single for a year and has 2 children, one grown and a 11 year old son. She says her new man is awesome and considers him to be a long term involvement in her life, but wants to know the right time to introduce him to the 10 year old….
K- As a general rule, if the man is someone the child has never met before, I say wait 5-6 months. Obviously, you have not had men in and out or you wouldn’t be asking this question. In this case, I believe you have to go with what the man and your son feel comfortable with. Talk to your son, feel him out, and if he feels like meeting sooner just make it casual! Somewhere in public with no pressure, just hanging out.
It might be good to get a list ready in your head of things they have in common. You know, to just casually bring up in the course of conversation….
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